So it's been 8 weeks since Evelyn was born. My husband keeps reminding me that it's time. You know what I mean. The six week healing process is up and he wants his wife back, eh hmm. Well, my doctor informed me that it isn't time until my IUD goes in, sorry baby! Okay, anyway.
I decided, that since there is nothing about my body that appeals to my eyes, I would buy some new undies to make me feel better about myself. I used to buy lace underwear and it would stay nice. I would wear it all the time and it made me feel feminine and sexy. Things during cancer I needed to feel. I would wash them and they would come out in the form of underwear. Stay with me.
So, I washed my new underwear. Let me re-phrase that, I put them in the laundry and Bill washed them. Want to know what he washed them with...bibs. Do you know how most bibs close, Velcro. Do you see where I am going with this? I pull out my new undies out of the basket today and what do I find...a bib stuck to my lace undies. Yep, the bib says "single" on it and it is stuck to my lace underwear. At first I am mad. Then I think it's funny. Now I am concerned. Is this a sign of things to come? Is there every going to be a day that I own nice lace undies again? Or where Billy and I won't sleep in our sweatpants with a toddler between us? phew.
I think the bib attached undies were a brief reminder that I am a mom first. I will always be a mom and even when I want a special moment with my husband, there will be a bib attached, per say. I think it's time to go back to the laundry basket now and see what else my undies got washed with, maybe it'll teach me another lesson!
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
The End of Summer
It's October 12th and there are several clues that our time outdoors is coming to an end. The MN Twins are done with their season, the leaves are quickly falling onto the ground and when I look out my living room window there isn't a bean or corn field left standing. Winter is swiftly approaching and it reminds me to take advantage of every moment left of the summer.
Addie and I are playing outside, eh hm, Addie is playing and I am writing my blog post outside. She is so easily entertained by herself now that often when I ask if I can play with her she either pushes me away or tells me no. That's okay, I enjoy sitting here watching her amazing imagination go. She loves to put the dogs food bowls in her play kitchen, push her grocery cart around full of leaves, acorns and buckets but her favorite thing is to ride her bike or push her lawn mower. She's a fantastic landscaper!! As I watch her play I look at Evie and realize that it wasn't that long ago Addie was tiny, helpless and still. She slept, cried and ate just like Evie does now.
As I watch this summer come to an end I am anxious to for the next. The girls will be playing together by then, I hope, and our summer can be filled with parks, games, pools and fun. This summer life wasn't very fair for Addie. I was either too tired, too big or too hot to play outside for very long. But next year I won't be pregnant. I'll be able to go for nature walks, to the park, the pool and play with the girls outside. I am so excited to watch them grow and learn together. Addison sure does love showing her little sister things. It's amazing how swimmingly Addie took to Evie. It amazes me really that she never really acted out to the changes.
When the last leaf drops and the first snowflake flies I'll be a bit sad that our outdoor time will be so short. Although I know that a new season of adventures lies ahead I can't help but savor the one we are in. I enjoy looking at the world through the eyes of a 1.5 year old. It reminds me how the simple things in life are really the most amazing. It isn't all the stuff I buy or the things I have but what I make of them. Addie can turn a dog bowl into hours of fun; I only wish I could do that!
Addie and I are playing outside, eh hm, Addie is playing and I am writing my blog post outside. She is so easily entertained by herself now that often when I ask if I can play with her she either pushes me away or tells me no. That's okay, I enjoy sitting here watching her amazing imagination go. She loves to put the dogs food bowls in her play kitchen, push her grocery cart around full of leaves, acorns and buckets but her favorite thing is to ride her bike or push her lawn mower. She's a fantastic landscaper!! As I watch her play I look at Evie and realize that it wasn't that long ago Addie was tiny, helpless and still. She slept, cried and ate just like Evie does now.
As I watch this summer come to an end I am anxious to for the next. The girls will be playing together by then, I hope, and our summer can be filled with parks, games, pools and fun. This summer life wasn't very fair for Addie. I was either too tired, too big or too hot to play outside for very long. But next year I won't be pregnant. I'll be able to go for nature walks, to the park, the pool and play with the girls outside. I am so excited to watch them grow and learn together. Addison sure does love showing her little sister things. It's amazing how swimmingly Addie took to Evie. It amazes me really that she never really acted out to the changes.
When the last leaf drops and the first snowflake flies I'll be a bit sad that our outdoor time will be so short. Although I know that a new season of adventures lies ahead I can't help but savor the one we are in. I enjoy looking at the world through the eyes of a 1.5 year old. It reminds me how the simple things in life are really the most amazing. It isn't all the stuff I buy or the things I have but what I make of them. Addie can turn a dog bowl into hours of fun; I only wish I could do that!
Monday, October 4, 2010
Damn, it feels good to be me!
Sometimes I need to watch the news or listen to the radio to get something to spark my interest for a blog. Sometimes it's more personal and I just write from the soul. Today I sat down to write my post and nothing. No news story or personal issues are on my mind today. Today that only thing on my mind is how I am going in for my 6 week post-pardum check and am trying to figure out where the last 6 weeks have gone.
Evie has blended so well into our family. She has completed our circle and we feel complete. It's amazing how Addison took to her like a glove. She hasn't once shown jealousy. She gives her kisses and hugs constantly and when she doesn't want her around she just ignores her or throws a paci at her!
Billy and I feel fortunate that most nights we are only woken up once or twice for a feeding or diaper change. She is such a good baby there are times I forget she's in the room! In the last week or so Evie has been awake a lot more. It's so fun listening to her coo and look at the world. She has the best facial expressions and smiles a little now. She definitely knows who I am; at the sound of my voice she is looking for something to eat! And, believe it or not, she no longer looks like Addie and Billy! People have started to tell us she looks like me or my mom! Yay, I can claim this child!!
It's amazing how much love I can carry in my heart. I wondered for a good portion of my pregnancy how I was going to love another baby as much as I love Addie but it was so easy. I now understand when I would say to my mom, "you love Joe more" she always told us she loved us the same. I figured that it was impossible to love the second as much as the first but it isn't. My love for my girls pours over and I just can't believe I am lucky enough to be there mom.
I am saddened how fast these six weeks have gone. It's a stark remind how fast time moves. I almost have a 2 year old! It blows my mind that Addie is talking, eating on her own and has opinions. It wasn't that long ago she was just like Evie is now; dependent. I am afraid of how fast the next 6 weeks will go.
I guess that saying is true: time flies when you're having fun. Damn, it feels good to be me!
Evie has blended so well into our family. She has completed our circle and we feel complete. It's amazing how Addison took to her like a glove. She hasn't once shown jealousy. She gives her kisses and hugs constantly and when she doesn't want her around she just ignores her or throws a paci at her!
Billy and I feel fortunate that most nights we are only woken up once or twice for a feeding or diaper change. She is such a good baby there are times I forget she's in the room! In the last week or so Evie has been awake a lot more. It's so fun listening to her coo and look at the world. She has the best facial expressions and smiles a little now. She definitely knows who I am; at the sound of my voice she is looking for something to eat! And, believe it or not, she no longer looks like Addie and Billy! People have started to tell us she looks like me or my mom! Yay, I can claim this child!!
It's amazing how much love I can carry in my heart. I wondered for a good portion of my pregnancy how I was going to love another baby as much as I love Addie but it was so easy. I now understand when I would say to my mom, "you love Joe more" she always told us she loved us the same. I figured that it was impossible to love the second as much as the first but it isn't. My love for my girls pours over and I just can't believe I am lucky enough to be there mom.
I am saddened how fast these six weeks have gone. It's a stark remind how fast time moves. I almost have a 2 year old! It blows my mind that Addie is talking, eating on her own and has opinions. It wasn't that long ago she was just like Evie is now; dependent. I am afraid of how fast the next 6 weeks will go.
I guess that saying is true: time flies when you're having fun. Damn, it feels good to be me!
Friday, October 1, 2010
Bullying. It needs to stop.
Bullying. I think it's on the mind of every American right now; at the very least, every American parent. Just yesterday it was announced that a bright, talented Rutger's University student killed himself after his roommate and "friend" set up a hidden web cam and posted his relations with another man on the internet. There have been several news stories about young, 12 to 15 year olds, that have killed themselves over bullying. This is no longer becoming just another sad news story or kids being kids; this is a serious problem that we need to get a grip on.
I think that we were all, in some way, picked on in our years of growing up. Whether you were the cool kid or the dork, the jock or the band geek, wherever you stood in the hierarchy of popularity, you were at some point picked on. I understand that teasing happens. That there is a "I can't believe she did that" or a "You are a loser" here and there but serious bullying has become a problem. With the plethora of technology that teens (and adults alike) have access to it takes the teasing we endured to a whole new level. It's now non-stop. Texts, IM's, e-mails, blogs, facebook, twitter, and of course phone calls that bring teasing from the playground to the bedroom.
I often wonder what it will be that Addie and Evie will be teased about. Will it be something I can change, buy or replace so the teasing stops? Or will it be a feature of themselves that is permanent? I do know that I can only protect and guard them from the teasing to a point. I will arm them with all the self-confidence I can starting now so that when someone does put them down they can know that it isn't true. I will instill in them a sense of knowing right from wrong on the issue of teasing and bullying to stand up for those who are being bullied. And, so help me, if I ever find out that either girl has bullied another child they will not see the light of day for weeks. I have no tolerance for bullying.
Neither should you. As parents we need to stop this now before one more child dies. There should not be one more child who feels like their life isn't worth living because of another. And if you know that your child is a bully, do something about it. It's no longer kids just being kids. It's being taken way to far and kids are reaping serious consequences from this. In a world of such diversity we need to teach our kids tolerance for difference.
We need to, as adults, set an example for our children. I've known people to tell their kids that famous saying; Do as I say, not as I do, but what kind of an example are we really setting for our kids. The apple really doesn't fall far from the tree. Our children learn and imitate our behavior. Do you make comments about another race, sex or sexual preference? Chances are if you answered yes to this your child has too. It pains me to know that children are still being taught prejudice instead of tolerance.
We need to start holding people, including children, accountable for their actions. There need to be consequences again. And it needs to start in American homes. No longer should parents blame the schools for "not doing enough". Take responsibility for your child's actions. If we all teach our children that bullying is wrong and set a good example for them this issue will lesson. I'm not naive, I know that teasing and bullying will never go away but children should in no way be so affected they take their own life.
Stand up for the victims of bully. Do your part to remind your children the consequences of their actions. Let's not let this turn into a bigger problem then it already is.
I think that we were all, in some way, picked on in our years of growing up. Whether you were the cool kid or the dork, the jock or the band geek, wherever you stood in the hierarchy of popularity, you were at some point picked on. I understand that teasing happens. That there is a "I can't believe she did that" or a "You are a loser" here and there but serious bullying has become a problem. With the plethora of technology that teens (and adults alike) have access to it takes the teasing we endured to a whole new level. It's now non-stop. Texts, IM's, e-mails, blogs, facebook, twitter, and of course phone calls that bring teasing from the playground to the bedroom.
I often wonder what it will be that Addie and Evie will be teased about. Will it be something I can change, buy or replace so the teasing stops? Or will it be a feature of themselves that is permanent? I do know that I can only protect and guard them from the teasing to a point. I will arm them with all the self-confidence I can starting now so that when someone does put them down they can know that it isn't true. I will instill in them a sense of knowing right from wrong on the issue of teasing and bullying to stand up for those who are being bullied. And, so help me, if I ever find out that either girl has bullied another child they will not see the light of day for weeks. I have no tolerance for bullying.
Neither should you. As parents we need to stop this now before one more child dies. There should not be one more child who feels like their life isn't worth living because of another. And if you know that your child is a bully, do something about it. It's no longer kids just being kids. It's being taken way to far and kids are reaping serious consequences from this. In a world of such diversity we need to teach our kids tolerance for difference.
We need to, as adults, set an example for our children. I've known people to tell their kids that famous saying; Do as I say, not as I do, but what kind of an example are we really setting for our kids. The apple really doesn't fall far from the tree. Our children learn and imitate our behavior. Do you make comments about another race, sex or sexual preference? Chances are if you answered yes to this your child has too. It pains me to know that children are still being taught prejudice instead of tolerance.
We need to start holding people, including children, accountable for their actions. There need to be consequences again. And it needs to start in American homes. No longer should parents blame the schools for "not doing enough". Take responsibility for your child's actions. If we all teach our children that bullying is wrong and set a good example for them this issue will lesson. I'm not naive, I know that teasing and bullying will never go away but children should in no way be so affected they take their own life.
Stand up for the victims of bully. Do your part to remind your children the consequences of their actions. Let's not let this turn into a bigger problem then it already is.
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