Let God do the Judging

It's a touchy subject and even I'm not 100% where I stand but I think it's important to "air out" this subject, gay marriage. I read an article on kare11.com today about how the Catholic church is sending out an informational packet to all registered members of the Catholic church about marriage. A 12 minute DVD will be included titled, "One Man, One Woman-Marriage and the Common Good". This made me start thinking about my opinion on the subject again and whether or not I would actually watch the video when I receive it.

My personal preference is that marriage stay between a man and a woman, I think. I've read it in the Bible several times and I've heard about it in church. But who am I to judge? My mom's very best friend was married to a man for years, had three beautiful children and now has three gorgeous grandchildren. She knew there was always something "wrong" with her marriage. Later in life she realized that she was a lesbian and has since divorced her ex-husband and has had a commitment ceremony with her wife. I attended this service with my mom and nothing about it seemed wrong to me. I love this woman like she is my own mother. She has always been there for me and I don't and will never judge her on her sexual preference.

Who am I to say that she won't go to heaven? I don't think that gay and lesbians wake up one morning "deciding" their sexual preference. I have to assume this since there was never a day I woke up and decided that I was heterosexual. It wasn't a decision I made to fall for boys it was a feeling; a feeling that God placed on my heart. So who is to say that God hasn't created homosexuals hearts different then mine? Is the church really able to prove this? Is their some sort of science that proves a genetic difference? I just don't feel like it is my place to judge.

I attended a church when I was in my early twenties in Minneapolis. When I started attending this church I had no idea that they openly supported homosexuality. In fact, a good portion of their congregation was homosexual (which explained a lot to me once I learned this!). It was the first time in my young adulthood that I enjoyed going to a Catholic church. The message, music and acceptance was different at this church. I never felt judged and now I realize why. Most of these men and women were constantly being judged. They were judged for their lifestyle from people who didn't care to understand. In fact, the Catholic church judged and has since moved the priest who supported these people away from this church. It hurts to know that religious people can be so judgemental. Shouldn't the church be happy that they have people, whether homo or hetero-sexual, filling the church each week? I guess that isn't important.

I feel so conflicted over this subject. My heart tells me that it is okay for two people, whether same sex or not, who truly love each other to be in a committed "marriage" relationship. My head; the one that went to Catholic school, has UBER conservative in-laws and has read it in the Bible, tells me that it is wrong. Isn't love, love? I wish that this subject would get settled on both at the federal and church level so that I don't have to hear about it anymore.

I guess I am going to support my mom's best friend, as I've never met someone so in love, and let God do the judging. In the end, it isn't my or the church's opinion that matter's any way.